Women are complicated creatures.
God made us to withstand childbirth, relationships, and more. In the past few months, I have heard and seen tremendous difficulties women are facing day-to-day more than ever. My homeschooling mama friends are trying desperately to help meet their child’s specific needs: which curriculum to choose, how to help him or her learn and succeed, and how to balance their lives as they homeschool. My working mom friends are trying to balance home and work, and stay healthy in the meantime. My stay-at-home mom friends are struggling with feeling significant, getting rest, and well, you know the routine when you have littles. I know mamas whose children have just moved out, leaving them to an empty nest, and those whose nest has just refilled. I have other mama friends who have struggled through difficult church situations and are trying to make sense of how God is moving in their spiritual lives, and how to respond to circumstances that are spiritually difficult and hurtful. I have several dear mama friends currently fighting for their very lives. So much time, tears, and pleading for grace for them is spent daily, and God has indeed been gracious.
I know of several mamas helping to raise their grandchildren or another family member because of bad decisions of the mamas of these little ones. I recently have been asked to pray for several mama friends whose husbands have left them and their children, mamas whose husbands are without work, and mamas whose children are struggling with their gender identity or sexual orientation. I have mama friends who have recently lost their own dear mothers, crying out for comfort because they have no opportunity to hug and love their moms this year, and then those whose mothers can’t be trusted to be alone with their children. And then there is the Mother’s Day drama. You know, do I really want to stand in a very long line for an opportunity to eat with our very large party just to be overcharged so I can appease my Mother’s Day guilt? Or how do I balance being a mama, give time and honor to my own mama, and spend time with my mama children on this important day? What? You haven’t ever felt that way? Oh, then I guess I am the one with that specific mama drama. 🙂
All this mama drama.
All this mama drama. (By the way, I am somewhere in the middle of my own dramas, so trust me, I am not judging. I am just burdened more than ever for these dear mamas. Over time, my burden for them as well as dealing with my own dramas has become very burdensome. It is easy to get bogged down by the drama.) What are we to do? As I just texted to one of my dear friends, run and cling to Christ. RUN! In all of these trials, our Father is sovereign. There is nothing in these dramas that can consume or defeat us. He promises that to us if we trust Him as our Savior. That’s why we need a Savior! All this drama is the result of sin. We live in a broken world and relationships are made between broken people who do broken things. As mamas we want to put all the broken pieces back together. That’s what we do. But, you know what? That is what God does. Sometimes we get to help when it is His will, and other times we need to trust Him to do it His way.
I recently wrote a blog post for work on the whispers of lies we tell ourselves as mothers. Take a few minutes to read it. I trust it will encourage you today. But in the meantime, let me leave you with some hope in this chaos and drama that we live in day-to-day. We may not be able to end or fix the drama created by man’s sin, but we can let the Divine Author handle the setting, characters, and plot; because after all, He is the author, not of the brokenness, but of the creation and redemption of man, his times, and his relationship to Him.
- Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid. John 14:27-28
- The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness. Lamentations 3:22-23
- Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. (Philippians 4:8)
- The Lord is my light and my salvation—whom shall I fear? The Lord is the stronghold of my life—of whom shall I be afraid? (Psalm 27:1)
- It is the Lord who goes before you. He will be with you; he will not fail you or forsake you. Do not fear or be dismayed. (Deuteronomy 31:8)
- When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears, and rescues them from all their troubles. (Psalm 34:17)
- Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you. (1 Peter 5:7)
- My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness. (2 Corinthians 12:9)
- You are my hiding place; you will protect me from trouble and surround me with songs of deliverance. (Psalm 32:7-8)
I love the words to this song by Jonny Diaz and the following lyrics by Danny Gokey.
Breathe, just breathe
Come and rest at my feet
And be, just be
Chaos calls but all you really need
Is to take it in fill your lungs
The peace of God that overcomes
So let your weary spirit rest
Lay down what’s good and find what’s best
© 2015 Centricity Music Publishing (ASCAP) / So Essential Tunes & Not Just Another Song (SESAC) / Wordspring Music, LLC & Tony Wood Songs (SESAC)
Let every heartbreak
And every scar
Be a picture that reminds you
Who has carried you this far
‘Cause love sees farther than you ever could
In this moment heaven’s working
Everything for your good
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Writer(s): Bernie Herms/Matthew West/Randy Phillips
Sharon Fisher holds a B.S. in Elementary Education and an M.A. in Elementary Education. She has 14 years of full time teaching experience in the elementary classroom, served as Curriculum Coordinator for Bob Jones Academy, and served as an elementary author for BJU Press. She has contributed to a variety of elementary educational materials and has presented workshops both nationally and internationally on a variety of elementary-level subjects and teaching methods. She currently writes a blog and is Social Media Coordinator and Curriculum Specialist for HomeWorks by Precept, a provider of excellent education products, including BJU Press. She is the mother of four grown sons, a grandmother to Ben, and has a passion for encouraging Christian educators and homeschool parents to teach children with excellence and with a biblical worldview.